How sharing joy is not always be taken positively!!

Today while going to international airport, I called my bua just to let her know that I am going to Israel assuming the she will be happy to know. This was my way of sharing my joy and I didn't want to give her chance to say that I don't let her know. Her older daughter picked up the phone and after some very child like chat with her, i asked her to call her mom. She reverted with 'she is not well'. Since I couldn't have been able to call her again in next 15 days or so, I insisted to talk to her mom. She banged the phone (probably her father asked her to do so). Just to hear bua and also to make sure that disconnection was not by mistake, I called her again. This time bua picked up the phone. I barely spoke to her to know about her health, phupha snatched the receiver from her and rudely told me that she is sick and you call her some other time. I was really felt hurt. But that's fine.

Now the question is was he justified in doing so. Once she already picked the phone and me already knowing that she is not well, i could have barely talked to her, may be at most for a minute. Just thinking, was he justified to behave like this? Had he told me graciously that she is not well & do you have something important to tell her, I will convey to her & will ask her to call you tomorrow once she feels better?

The reasons which I could think for this type of behavior are, since I generally behave with them cheerfully they consider this behavior childish or am a non serious guy. I felt really bad about him and her unscrupulous daughter and deleted their number from my cell and decided not to call them again or go to their place unless they call me or invite me to their place.

Either way, I need to stop feeling friendly/close with this kind of people. This is not first of its kind experience. I have felt similar with some other people in my extended family. But now, I think, I need to be more careful and stop mingling with. Now, I have started filtering people like these and stop keeping them in callers list. I know, this is not good thing to do and also this is not my natural behavior but I am left with no other option and I need to behave in a politically correct way.

If I start calling people only when it is required, probably my cell phone bill will reduce to 10% of what it is now. Anyway, I have learnt my lesson and will keep this in mind.

Cheers!!

Constraint in Life

Someone said that I have ‘a’ constraint in my life. I partially understand where is he leading to, but I am not sure up to what extent it is true. And then, probably every other guy has some constraint else everyone would have been at sky (considering sky is the limit). Now the point is either eliminate those constraint and move ahead or change the path of life. Upto this point, all this is straight forward. But the question is, is it sensible to change the path because if one does, then he/she need to carry the stigma of not able to break constraint. Is it? Or forget the constraint and change the path. This is the dilemma!!!